In counseling psych grad school we took a yearlong class exclusively on therapeutic communication. The most important lesson we learned was that the client healed not from some specific technique or information - but from the relationship with the therapist.
In fact, one of the most healing things that could happen was the inevitable therapeutic break: when the therapist messes up and doesn't say what the client needs to hear. At this critical juncture, the therapist has the opportunity to hear the client's hurt, to make amends, and let the client be cherished as vulnerable - often for the first time in his/her entire life.
This is life changing.
We come from families where our needs and feelings were squashed. We had no model for healthy communication and even fewer examples of how to listen.
To have someone see your pain - to witness your wound - and non-defensively hear your feelings provides a kind of wholeness that is sublime.
relationships that heal
Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, seminarian Ph.D.'s and pioneers of relationship therapy, hold in their groundbreaking book, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, that the very purpose of relationships is to complete our needed healing and development.
They've since expanded their theories and practice to include all kinds of relationships.
This, of course, applies to the the most important relationship in your life - the one between you and Spirit.
letting love change you
We were made for intimacy. That is how God lives in us.
It is how God relates to us, and how we're to relate to ourselves, each other, and the world at large. Every connection is meant to change us in some way - to open us up, to heal, to teach us something that no other way can.